Have you ever had a loose battery cable, on your car? If you have, then you know that this can make your car, slow to start or not start at all. Once you realize your cable is loose, then you tighten it; ensuring a secure connection. This will often fix the problem. However, in some cases, the battery must be replaced because it's no longer charging properly; even with a secure connection.
This same principle of loose connection, also applies to relationships. As we continue to grow and evolve, we our forced to evaluate relationships that are not properly charging. This can be a hard pill to swallow, what if the poor connection is with someone, we considered to be, a forever, ever, friend. How do you unplug from that kind of relationship? Honestly, I don't know.
I have experienced a time when I fought to hold on to a relationship. I mean this was my "ride or die" and there was no way our connection, was down for good. Just no way! I continued to carry on thinking the relationship would recover. But, gradually, the connection was losing its charge; until finally the relationship was powerless. Around this time, frustration and anger began to take over the relationship. This led to blaming each other for the state of the relationship. Eventually, a petty argument turned into a full blown argument, causing the relationship to be snatched apart.
There is a time and season for everything under the sun (Ecclesiastes 3:1-8).
Unfortunately, holding on to a relationship beyond it's season, is like continuing to drive with a bad battery. Although you may be able to re-tighten the connection and keep driving for a short time; eventually that battery is going to die. Hopefully, you won't be stranded on the side of the road; when the battery dies.
I have learned many lessons, from checking loose connections. For instance, letting go of a relationship in love, is far less painful than holding on; once that season has ended. When you are no longer being fully charged in a relationship, check the connection. Maybe it's just loose, in which case, tighten it up and carry on. However, if that connection is no longer capable of giving, or receiving a charge from you; that's a good indicator to, disconnect in love.
~One Love Diane